When Communication fails, use Communitalkisten.
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Word: Communitalkisten
Pronounced: (Commu-ni-taw-kiss-in)
Definition: A combination of two actions to successfully use the art of communication when two or more people partake in usage of vocal sounds and hearing aids during conversation. The two actions consist of: Truly Talking/Truly Listening
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At times, some fail on how to communicate when face to face with our children and that is a big show stopper on getting a point across or having it heard clearly. This can leave behind a lack of understanding between a parent and child of what was meant to be understood.
The trick is to have one truly talk and one or more to truly listen. When such an act of combined actions are in harmony, we can create Communitalkisten. This would make the world such a better place if everyone understood such a word.
Here are some reasons why we fail at communicating between parent and child. Which of these reason have you participated in?
- Attention turned to phone, texting/call.
Technology is a beautiful thing, don’t get me wrong, but it has its time and place, like all things. It does not belong in your hands being looked at texting or on your ear being talked into when you are either talking or listening to the other person or people.
This day forward may we be more cautious as to how we handle our cell phone business while communicating and in conversation. Let us truly talk and truly listen while communicating and not be distracted by our cell phones. Sounds good to me, what about you?
- Interruption of the individual talking and not letting them finish their point.
I have witnessed this once too many times and have found it to be the result of two things. Inputting your opinion as the other speaks to not forget what you feel is an important point to bring up and/or inputting your opinion as the other speaks because the communication with such conversation has escalated to an argument as one must get their point across first.
Neither one of these accomplishes Communitalkisten, not what-so-ever. Not only does it not accomplish that, but it makes the other that has been interrupted either potentially angry and/or makes the other that has been interrupted potentially not feel as if they are being truly listened to.
Why? Because truly listening involves waiting until an individual is completely finished with their point.
- Attention taken elsewhere to alternate activity.
Having the attention taken elsewhere to alternate activity while talking or listening is not as common as some of the other variables, but it is still happening with people everywhere.
When one is distracted for whatever reason and loses focus on the engaged communication, it can annoy the other who is truly listening or truly talking. If this is done, it can cause the one who did it to seem rude as they are not able to do Communitalkisten efficiently. May our attention not be taken elsewhere.
Although, the cellphone is a distraction. We had to make that one a separate variable due to it being the number one most used as a distraction.
- Creating an annoyance to the dis-like of the individual speaking.
To do an act in which creates an annoyance to the dis-like of the individual speaking can be deemed as inappropriate. Indeed, this can be all but accidental in the process as well as purposefully.
The latter, purposeful, shows that whomever has done such an act has within their character at that moment an energetic for which does not suit anyone.
This very well is most likely to be the direct cause of an individual angry or jealous towards whatever or whomever. The idea here is to take responsibility and not portray yourself as someone who cannot rightfully respect the other or others whilst in communication. Let us think before we act.
- Speaking incoherently.
Examples can consist of talking as you awaken from your sleep, mumbling due to whatever, chewing food, gum or drinking a beverage, yelling due to anger, speaking softly due to sadness and possibly due to crying.
Indeed these are just a few to list that could very well cause one to speak incoherently creating the destruction of Communitalkisten. All this as well to the way one speaks, in general, by means of how they have been raised and conditioned to speak applies as well.
In all cases speaking coherently is needed, so if to do so one needs to speak slower and more thoroughly, pronunciation of each word would be advised. Let us always speak coherently from now on.
- Not completely getting entire point across to the listener.
I say this unto everyone reading, when you truly speak to get your point across to the one(s) listening, speak of the entire point until you feel you have accomplished getting through all information of it.
If need be, it is suggested to have a paper and pencil or pen and write down what you need to before speaking, to get your entire point across to ensure nothing is missed.
- Escalating conversation into an argument.
How unnecessary and unfortunate. Why do people feel the need to argue when Communitalkisten could be in play and a calm and serene conversation could be actualized?
If only everyone can come to their senses about not choosing to argue and choosing to go about it more peacefully. This seems to be an epidemic, everywhere, as if it is a virus that corrupts the minds of human beings with no remorse to the result it would have placed after communicating.
There are countless ridiculous reasons an argument begins. May we choose not to participate in an argument or create an argument? Sounds good to me.
For if such occurs, there simply are two options that are recommended to apply for yourself. Option one is to politely excuse yourself from the conversation. To then leave the conversation, to stop communicating. Option two is to continue being the best self you can be, not getting effected by the other arguing and calmly wait for the other to stop.
- Acting as if listening but truly not.
This reason is the one containing the most trickery. There are some that pull this off very well and get away with it. There are others that attempt this and simply do not get away with it, being that the one talking can sense their attitude of not wanting to listen.
Remember, we are talking about Communitalkisten here, so even if you can get away with doing this variable, would you really want to? That would be like going through school not wanting to learn anything and acting like you are listening to the lectures, when it would benefit one to actually learn what is being taught.
Do you want others to truly listen to you when you are truly talking? Do you want others to truly talk to you when you are truly listening? Think about that for a change. Do you want others to truly listen to you? If so, then you should truly listen.
- Leaving the conversation with your physical body as it is continuing, without properly stating that you are leaving.
When one leaves during the communication taking place, that can be seen as rude and it can show others the character you withhold within you. That could lead to others not wanting to communicate with you per say as much in the future, from the mere fact that you have blatantly disregarded the conversation, such communication.
It could be known that this variable occurs at times simply due to an individual becoming bored of such discussion. Yet, let us be nice about our actions and excuse ourselves from the conversation if needed.
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Try your best to implement Communitalkisten in your life, to help elevate your true potential in communicating.
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This source was gathered from my book: “The Distinct Facts of Living… Get To It!”
Please visit “http://www.livingrealizations.com/” for more information.
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